Are You Waiting To Win
You Out There Taking The Shots?
Some folks feel like the world owes them a win. Is that you?
I know I have realized I had an entitlement mindset. It was learned. And I believed it.
All through my childhood I was told of the prescribed path of life:
Go to school.
Get good grades (so you can get into college).
Go to college (so you can get a job).
Get a job (so you can pay bills).
This was supposed to be how it works. I bought into it hook line & sinker. And with good reason too. People I loved and trusted did this and told me to do this. It made sense at the time.
But the world changed.
James Altucher describes this RULE better than I can in his post here:
WHAT FOUR STEPS MAKE YOU THE EXCEPTION TO THE RULE
One day I was at my current job and helping a math tutor get to one of the areas he needed to go to help the students. I had been talking to him for awhile and had explained to him how I was (at the time) certified to teach math but was not successful in finding a teaching position anywhere in the entire state of Texas.
Believe me I applied everywhere! (Anyone else apply to Eden CISD and call the principle?)
Then he asked me something I had never given much thought to:
“Why should they hire you?”
My jaw dropped. How dare he insult me with this demeaning question! I bowed up!
Why should they I thought?
Because I am certified and therefore qualified to do so. I FOLLOWED THE RULES.
In my pity I gave him some vague non-answer, “Uh, I don’t know…”
But I did not forget this interaction and my underwhelming response. No wonder I never got hired I thought.
I had no reason why anyone should have let me be a teacher.
I didn’t know my why and I was relying on the fact that I followed the rules and therefore felt entitled to a job.
That is what was told would happen. That is what I believed.
In golf there is “The Turn” after the first 9 holes.
After what happened, I had yet to hit “The Turn”. I was maybe at the six or seventh hole and needed to work my way a bit further before I hit the turning point in my life.
The last time I played golf it may as well have been freezing outside.
It was November 11th, Veterans Day, 40 something degrees and windy!
In Texas we call that a blizzard. Well we don’t, but we might as well…
My dad is the impetus behind my love of golf.
He is the one who would take me to the range as a young buck and let me wail away at a wire basket of balls.
I was outfitted with clubs my size as we sweated out the heat of the garage to cut down the club shafts and then re-grip them for a ten year old. I would get to tag along on golf outings with the old man when he had the chance.
Golf is the only sport that I still have a shot at playing professionally.
Not a good shot mind you, but a shot.
This past weekend a local fellow by the name Jordan Spieth hit a total of 270 shots to earn himself $1.8 million.
Makes chasing around a little ball for four days not so ridiculous.
Jordan also set a ton of course records while doing it too. Part of what allowed him to be successful is what he gave up to get to this point. In order to get good at something you need to not do something else. That in business classes is called opportunity cost.
Here is my opportunity cost going forward with Day 91 of Claudia’s book Become An Idea Machine. I want to really give away my ideas as she and James suggest. This may seem counter intuitive but I will not necessarily be posting them everyday like I have been for the last 90 days.
The point being that I want to focus on something else. And that mainly is my writing. I have been having less than stellar stories and posts because they were focused around the idea list.
In order to improve the process I will continue to follow and keep you all up to date on my proceedings. However, my blog will hopefully be more reading worthy. When the ideas make sense to post, then I will.
If I need help giving the ideas away I will seek YOUR suggestions!
I don’t want to wait to win. I am stepping out there taking my next shot!
Let’s hope it doesn’t land in the woods…
P.S. Why would anyone let another person affect their thoughts and behaviors?
Are we not independent and self-reliant?
As much as we may be filled with thoughts like these, anyone who is honest will admit that they have been shaped and influenced by several people throughout their life.
Speaking of influential people, what do James Altucher, Dale Carnegie, and Theodore Roosevelt all have in common?
When reading Conspire To Inspire, you will find out why I chose to feature these three prominent people along with six others. You will get a quick and to the point glimpse at inspirational people, a story about when I discovered them, and why you should care.
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